Sunday, April 29, 2007

hi chris.. thanks, i know where you're coming from.

That's why I still wondering if I should go for it.. a lot of concerns.. esp when my body is not open to all sorts of experimentations..
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Chris said...

Well, you could advertise yourself as "Active" or "Passive", or "vanilla" or "kinky", or give a detailed list of what you are willing to do. But, as long as you're safe, why not be a bit experimental? I know you're a bit into S&M, explore some of that with clients, perhaps. You're young and when you get a bit older, you may not have the chance or the ability to experiment. So, in situations where you feel safe, experiment a bit. Feel good about your body and your sexuality. Then, later on, if someone asks you you can say, truly, "I tried it and it's not my cup of tea." or "Let's get down: I love doing that!"

1:40 AM
Anonymous said...

hi chris,

i understand where you are comming from. as kevin's close pal, i'll defintely object him to selling his body. he has what it takes to secure the man he wants. all these 'selling' thoughts arise within him are due to lonliness.
a sex worker maybe a legitimate profession in europe...you may even want to glorified it as the oldest profession...but please, in this part of the world, it's still being frown upon.
kevin, all those saying of...been there, done that, i don't like it, i like it...ignore them...dont even entertain such thoughts....

cheerios,
LEs.
your true blue aj friend is only a txt/call/ email away.

11:35 PM
Chris said...

Well, Les, it's hard for me to judge what Kevin's motives are. Some people might actually find being a sex worker is a fantasy that turns them on powerfully, independent of the fact that they want a partner, or a one-night-stand, or suchlike.

I also think that thinking of sex work as somehow demeaning or dirty is probably not helpful. Many sex workers do it because their bodies are the only item they possess from which they can make a living. And as the old joke goes: "Prostitution is the perfect business: You got it, you sell it, you still got it."

If one's fantasies run toward sex work, then I see no reason why one shouldn't try it if one has the body for it.

OTOH, if one is lonely, sex work does not fill that void--at the end of the day, you go home after sex work and go to bed, alone if you don't have a partner. Most sex workers are very divided when it comes to their work: work is work, and home and partner are not work. They detach their emotions from their work. This is necessary to ensure that they do not get emotionally attached to someone who, basically, is purchasing their body and their time. If Kevin wants to be successful at it, he'll have to cultivate that detachment.

Anyway, whatever he decides to do, I'm behind him 100%.

3:21 PM

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